Confident or Insecure what are you ?
Whilst we hear “fake it, till
you make it”, there is a fine line
between being confident and showing and screaming confidence which portrays you
are actually insecure . Forget thin it is a big, fat , chunky line .
A big factor nowadays is social
media. Majority seek validation and judge others on number of likes, followers etc.
One needs to understand that the point is to share the image and not to have a
daily reinforcement from others of their worth.
I just wanted to throw a light on
that as it leads to insecurity in many people nowadays . However, listed below are a few traits found in confident people and insecure people. Self evaluate as you go
through them.
Confident
People:
- Open minded.
- Give compliments.
- Takes responsibility for thoughts, feelings, actions and results.
- Operates on principle.
- Can easily engage a conversation new people.
- Admits mistakes.
- Willing to learn from other people.
- Not afraid to show their flaws.
- Take risks.
- Positive thinker.
- Exudes joy.
- Shares credit.
- Say sorry.
- Can laugh at themselves.
- Accept others differences.
- Abundance mindset giver.
- Makes decisions quickly.
- Keep learning and growing.
- Never talk negatively about people.
- Like to have people around.
- Motto “Hakuna Matata” .
Insecure
People:
- Close Minded.
- Seek validation.
- All know er.
- Make excuses.
- Do what feels good.
- Blame circumstances or people for the results.
- Come off fake because they hide their flaws.
- Stay in comfort zone.
- Negative thinker.
- Gossips.
- Scarcity mindset taker.
- Dislike people picking merry jokes on them.
- Judgmental.
- Worry about what others think.
- Can’t make fast decisions.
- Stay stuck old habits.
- Uncomfortable around new people.
- Hold grudges.
- Expect a lot from friends/family.
- Make relationships materialistic.
- Like taking whole credit.
- Can’t directly speak to the person they have an issue with instead choose to complain.
- Catch phrase “I told you so”
It’s better to identify that we behave confidently or
insecurely so that we realise and change the behaviours we repeatedly indulge
in . Where you go from here is entirely up to you , and determined on the habits
you choose from this point onwards .
Let’s work on ourselves and step into 2017 with a motto for a positive
change .
Until next time
Polý agape (lots of love) and stay cheerful :) !
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